One of the more enjoyable films I’ve watched recently is from a few years ago starring Ge You and Shu Qi and with a running time of approximately 2 hours and 5 minutes this film is well worth its modest time as so much of life’s revelations and our vastly varying views are explored amongst the often comical and touching moments so many I think can relate to in every day life~.
This wonderfully paced film follows the chance meeting of two very different souls as “Qin Fen” (Gen You) an entrepreneur who self invents a ridiculous device thereby propelling himself to instant millionaire status is at a crossroads in life where his sole wish becomes seeking a no nonsense companionship with marriage directly in mind, while Xiaoxiao Lang (Shu Qi) is a sharp tongued~ free spirited flight attendant whose deep love with a married man has led her to much conflicted emotions and emptiness in life, an abyss she’s still not willing to let go of despite its hurtfulness. The film’s relatable sensibility is portrayed through many of modern life’s social gatherings including the often comical twists and perils of online dating where surely honesty is always best where the jungle of dating lay~ it’s pretenses…anxieties… and standards are seen in a most enlightening and open forum of sorts. Likewise is Xiaoxiao’s personality and where many girl’s won’t often say everything they’re thinking, sometimes and in Xiaoxiao’s case they also often times do =). And much of the genius throughout is the unobvious timing of meetings and dialogue where from propositions of sex once a year to the soliciting of grave plots to a very special cameo and subsequent shock!….nothing appears out of bounds or out of place despite society’s known best efforts. Further there’s the seamless unlocking of one’s own true profile and self worth, that which is deeply rooted in how we see ourselves and how we envision those around us, the pump & dump theory, sex’s importance between sexes and how girls too need a drinking buddy now and then.
And while surely honesty on all fronts is always best, the story’s underlying depth materializes our personal desires or what we perceive to be our wants and how life’s relationships with all of its idiosyncrasies and deeply rooted needs have us believing we know ourselves and our compatibilities all the while how it can all change in a single meeting, an understudy really of the tragedies and decisions which make us whom we are.
And for Qin Fen, life has been without much pretense or adventure till now as the unexpected journey with Xiaoxiao opens up both worlds and minds even unwilling, with life changing experiences….think religion + praying + yakuza funeral to bear survival tips to a boisterous evening at an ikazaya bar where the hostess are as ‘young’ as their 40 year old sign adorning the entryway =O. And while life long confessions can often times get lost in translation, it’s surely the joy of destiny which is the colorful journey here and yet can the sum of it all help to seal Qin Fen’s lonely soul? And furthermore can he help to solve a broken heart yet reluctant, one that despite fighting can’t seem to find its healing?
~If you are the one (trailer)~
The original film “If you are the one” featured here went on to have a sequel titled “If you are the one: Love & Marriage”, however it is highly recommended that you first watch the original film before seeing the sequel.